Official Manual of the State of
James Kirkpatrick, Secretary of State
Social Life on the Frontier
Life was not all real and earnest in the new state. There were parties, weddings, romances and gaiety. A leading hostess of the time was Mme. Bartholomew Berthold who had been Pelagie Chouteau. The Indians called her, "La Femme Tout Seule" - the "Lone Woman."
There are familiar names in the early marriage records. One Missouri woman had two sons and a grandson in the United States Senate. Anne Hunter first married Israel Dodge and then Asahel Linn. By her first marriage, she was the mother of Henry Dodge, later governor of the Wisconsin territory and U.S. Senator Lewis Fields Linn, son of her second marriage, was a senator from Missouri. Her grandson, Augustus C. Dodge became a senator, also.
A well known family at the time was the Coalters; one of the daughters married Edward Bates, another Hamilton Gamble, both men later leaders in the opposition to Missouri secession.
A sidelight on the interests of women in the city is given in an account of the "silk worm craze" of 1839. Someone promoted the idea that mulberry trees should be planted to feed silkworms and soon the suburbs were (still are) filled with them. A Missouri Silk Company was organized but something went awry with the plan and Missouri never became a silk center.
Social life in the rural areas was quite different from that of the city and
provides an insight into the life of these women. There were corn huskings
and house raisings and log rollings and quilting bees where johnny cake (journey
cake) was served and jigs and reels were danced. Of the costumes, Walter
"The dress of the fashionable pioneer woman was usually made plain with four widths in the skirt and the two front ones cut gored. The waist was made short and across the shoulders was a drawstring. Enormous sleeves were worn...sometimes so padded as to resemble a bolster, and known as 'mutton leg' or sheep-shank sleeves. Often in summer weather when going to church and other public assemblage, the women walked barefoot until near their destination when they put on their shoes or moccasins."
Pioneer Missouri women manufactured most of the clothing worm by the family. Gowns of linsey-woolsey were made with the chain in cotton, the filling of wool. Cotton grew abundantly in central Missouri. Most families made their own shoes.
In one of the early histories, a Mrs. Jarvis Woods told the story of her early married life in Grundy County. The young couple didn't even have a cabin. After the ceremony, they rode through the woods to a cleared area and began life under some slabs leaned against a white oak tree and held in place by heavy logs. The floor was the bare ground. Kitchen utensils consisted of iron bake pan, skillet, gourd and a couple of tin cups. They were, the bride said later, "just as happy as could be."
There was real equality in the pioneer marriage. Benjamin Young, an early settler in Audrain County described his wife, Mary Ring, as being "as good a hunter" as he was.
A Howard County story tells of Patsey Millsap, a Tennessee girl who married Richard Chaney and left her job with the Groom family, telling her employer she intended to "live on love." A few weeks alter she went back to buy some bacon, and Groom said to her, "I thought you told me you could live on love." "So I did," said Patsey, "but a little bacon will help out so very much."
When Major George W. Burt, veteran of the War of 1812, asked Major Isaac Van Bibber for the hand of his daughter, Eretta, great-granddaughter of Daniel Boone, the major said he could have her but that she was a "contrary stick" and if he took her, the father didn't want her back on his hands. Major Burt took the contrary stick and they became heads of one of the prosperous families of Callaway County.
Martha Price, the wife of Governor Sterling Price managed their 400-acre farm when her husband went to the Mexican War. Another first lady, Mrs. Claiborne F. Jackson moved her home and family into exile in 1861. She was the third of the three Sappington sisters, daughters of Dr. John Sappington, discoverer of quinine, to marry Jackson. The first two died and the oft-told story has it that when Jackson asked Dr. Sappington for the hand of his third daughter, the doctor said, "All right, Clay but don't come back for the old lady."
Another Sappington daughter, Lavinia was the wife of Governor Meredith Miles Marmaduke and had the distinction of being the wife of a governor, mother of a governor (John Sappington Marmaduke--our 25th), the sister-in-law of a governor and the niece of a governor.